Sunday, October 16, 2011

Emerson Hospital Presents-Power of the Mind Workshop with Fran Spayne

                                                                                                         *2 CEU Credits
Emerson Hospital Presents:

Mind-Body Connection/Power of the Mind with Fran Spayne

Saturday, November 5, 2011        9:30 a.m. – noon
Registration: 978.287.3777 Emerson Hospital, Concord, MA $35.00

Understand the healing vibrations of your thoughts, words, emotions, intentions and actions and how they impact your wellness, relationships and everyday living.

Learn strategies to improve your life by being aware of
how your thoughts affect your health & everyday life.
You will learn about:
·        That the body has an electromagnetic field that can be measured several feet away
·        The impact your thoughts, words, emotions and intentions have on your wellness, mood, relationships and the course of your life
·        The truth behind an “aching heart”
·        How anger, depression and holding grudges affect you and your environment
·        The vibrations that your thoughts give off and affect you and others
*As authorized by the Continuing Education regulations of the Massachusetts Board of Registration in Nursing 244 CMR: 5.00 2 Contact hours will be provided upon completion of the program.

Has been approved for 2 credits and in the approval process for a 3rd.

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

A Course-In-Miracle (ACIM) and Law of Attraction (LOA)

Many teaching have the same message, including spritual teachings such as A Course In Miracles.  With every thought we think, we invoke a universe of possible outcomes.

"All thought creates form on some level." -- ACIM.  

"You Are a Creator; You Create With Your Every Thought."."  -- Abraham

What are you thinking today?  

Saturday, September 24, 2011

I am excited and proud to be a part of this Project Makeover Team

Please come celebrate with us and support Home for Our Troops

Project Makeover’s Reveal Party for Military Wife Amy Brady
To Benefit Homes for Our Troops

Join The Project Makeover Team to Celebrate Amy Brady’s Makeover and Benefit Homes For Our Troops!
Monday November 14, 2011 7:00-9:30 p.m.
at Saffon Bistro, Nashua, NH
Funds raised from this event will help Homes for Our Troops build a specially-adapted home for Sgt. Joshua Bouchard, who will live in the Granby, MA area.
The Project Makeover Team proudly invites you to join us on Monday November 14th as military wife Amy Brady shows off her new look!  Proceeds from ticket sales will help build a specially adapted home for Sgt. Joshua Bouchard of Granby, MA, who lost his left leg, broke his back, and suffered traumatic brain injury after his vehicle drove over a pressure plated IED in Helmand Province, Afghanistan on July 8th, 2009

Please join us for a great evening and a chance to help a brave American in his time of need. All costs of the event have already been covered by our generous sponsor Saffron Bistro in Nashua, NH so the full value of every ticket brings Sgt. Bouchard one step closer to home.

About Project Makeover Recipient Amy Brady
  Project Makeover has selected Amy Brady of Lowell as their next makeover recipient, with the help of The Blue Stars Mother’s Group and Jay French, organizer of the Merrimack Valley Celebration of Freedom, a year-round series of events to support Homes For Our Troops.
Amy’s husband Paul, who serves in the National Guard, has been stationed in Afghanistan since March.  Amy cares for their two young children and works at Mass General Hospital in Boston as a surgical nurse, and still finds time for significant volunteer work.  After reading a nomination letter written by Amy’s mother (unbeknownst to Amy!), the Project Makeover team knew they had found a great woman. 
 “….Amy is a compassionate, caring & an exceptional example of one who takes care of those in need.  Recently she was instrumental in finding help and providing comfort for a family of an injured soldier returning for medical care from Afghanistan. who was redirected to her unit.
“Amy works as a military youth coordinator ensuring success of the Kid's Deployment Day & future events…”

About Project Makeover: 
Project Makeover is a team of stylists and service professionals from Massachusetts and Southern, NH who work to make a difference in the lives of deserving women. They believe in the power of gratitude and in giving back to the community.
*Wardrobe stylist Susan Kanoff
*Make-up artist Grace Quintal
*Photographer Heather Rogers
*Nutrition & personal training Sylvia Sasso (Shaperella)
*Holistic Therapist & Inspirational Life Coach Fran Spayne
*Clothes from Thirty Petals Boutique/Belmont, MA,
*Clothes Fresh of Nashua/Nashua, NH
*Hair, Steven Michael/Andover Salon and Spa Andover, MA
*Event planning, Monique Johnson
*Interior design, Linda Holt New Light Redesign
*Relationship Coach, Cheri Valentine
*Business and Money Coaching from Maureen Campaiola
*Merit Tukiainen, Project PR,
Special thank you to Saffron Bistro for their contribution to this event!
Ticket Information: Ticket price includes appetizers, non-alcoholic drinks and cash bar.
Appetizers and cocktails at 7:00 p.m.—Program starts at 7:30 p.m.
    Single Ticket : $25
Couple:  $50

Can’t Make The Event But Would Like to Help? Consider Becoming a Sponsor!
Liberty Sponsor : $25.00
Freedom Sponsor : $50.00
Independence Sponsor : $75.00
Hero Sponsor : $100.00
Patriot Sponsor : $150.00
Victory Sponsor : $250.00

Find Project Makeover on Facebook at:
We would be extremely grateful for your support of this very worthy cause.
Hope you can join us!
                     For more information contact Susan Kanoff, Project Makeover Lead   978.807.0577 

NOTE: PLEASE DO NOT USE THE "REGISTER" LINK BELOW, instead use the link above: "Click here to purchase tickets and sponsorships" to register for the event. Thanks!
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Thursday, September 1, 2011

Energy is constantly flowig and moving.

Think of a car for a moment.  A car takes energy to go in any direction.  The law of attraction is the same way.  When you feel about something or think about something, you begin the movement of that energy and your life in that direction. 

Friday, August 26, 2011


"Whatever the mind of man can conceive, it can achieve."  W. Clement Stone

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Attracting From Feeling Happy

When we are feeling happy on the inside, law of attraction is matching up the inside of us, and brining unlimited happiness to us.  Law of attraction says, “like attractions like”.  We have to be the exact state on the inside of what we want to bring on the outside.  You can’t complain and be miserable and expect your life to change.  In that state you are attracting more misery to yourself.  You have to be the ‘like’ that you want to attract. 

Monday, July 18, 2011

Seek the Goodness In People

As you smile at life, life smiles back to you.

"But how can I smile?" one of my clients asked.  "When I look around and all I see is craziness in the world.  It makes me sick to my stomach to hear about all the violence that is happening."

"Exactly," I said, "it makes you sick.  However, if you deliberately
look for what you can appreciate about your life and the world, your life will begin to brighten."

When you seek the goodness in the world and the people in it, you will find goodness.  You will discover things to appreciate and admire.  You may even bring out the best in others which will in turn make you more gracious.  The potential for grace exists in all human beings.

Not only will your life brighten as you see the good in people, you also create
positive energies and make your world a better place.  And that's what you are here
for, right?

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Creating Ourselves Rather Than Discovering Ourselves

In the absence of knowing who we are, self-definition or self-creation will always be attempted to some degree.  After having spent a good portion of our lives attempting to create ourselves, can we now see that it cannot be done.  It will always lead to failure and disappointment.  We cannot create ourselves because we have already been created.  However, the attempt to do so is the basis of much commercial activity and spawns commercial enterprises costing billions of dollars.  Much more money is spent  on creating ourselves than on discovering ourselves.

We attempt to create ourselves according to the standards given to us by whomever we learn to respect or on whom we have been taught to depend.  In other words, what is good and worthwhile to us will be determined most immediately by our family and peers and then by our culture generally.  We learn that if we are a certain way we will be “somebody”. 

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Botox for the Brain

Culture Culture & Society September-October 2009 Views Reviews and Interviews August 26, 2009

A Harvard psychologist argues that our mindless acceptance of stereotypes leads to premature aging.

Here’s an innovative way to lower health care costs: Set everyone’s biological clock back 20 years. Senior citizens of 75 will enjoy the strength and stamina they had at 55, meaning they will need far less medical attention. The energetic elderly will remain productive members of their community later into life, which could also ease the strain on Social Security.
Granted, this sounds like an unusually wonky episode of The Twilight Zone. But three decades ago, Harvard University psychologist Ellen Langer conducted a landmark experiment that suggested reverse aging needn’t be relegated to the realm of science fiction. Her revealing study, the many follow-ups it spawned and the implications of their findings are the subject of her fascinating new book Counterclockwise: Mindful Health and the Power of Possibility.

It’s a brightly written work — Langer has a knack for metaphors — that deftly challenges an array of assumptions we hold about health. She reminds readers that many definitive-sounding diagnoses are in fact best guesses, and that no study, however elegant and persuasive, can truly tell us the best course of treatment for any particular patient. Physicians, she counsels, should be thought of as “consultants.” Ultimately, we know our own bodies best.

In a sense, this is a book about the limits of empirical knowledge. But as Langer sees it, the ambiguity that inevitably accompanies medical research can be profoundly liberating. If we can’t be sure that a diagnosis — or a widely accepted truism such as “memory loss is inevitable with age” — truly applies in our case, we’re less likely to stick ourselves with a self-limiting label. “While many of our experienced disabilities may be a natural part of aging,” she writes, “many are instead a function of our mindsets about old age.”

The ingenious counterclockwise experiment was conducted in 1979. Langer and her students recruited two small groups of elderly men to spend a week living in a secluded New Hampshire monastery. Those in the control group spent the seven days reminiscing about the past, while those in the experimental group effectively re-entered the past. Their environment was designed to convey the impression they were living in 1959. They watched movies, listened to songs and read magazines from that era and discussed “current events” such as the first U.S. satellite launches.

“Both groups came out of the experience with their hearing and memory improved,” Langer reports. (It appears our bodies respond to being intellectually and emotionally engaged.) But members of the experimental group experienced more dramatic benefits. They were more likely to improve their scores on an intelligence test; more likely to show improvement in joint flexibility and dexterity; and more likely to look younger, as judged by a group of outside observers who compared before-and-after photos. Also, their fingers were longer. Since their arthritis declined in severity, they were able to extend their digits past the point they could a week earlier.

A fluke, perhaps? Well, Langer offers plenty of other data suggesting a strong link between self-perception and health. My favorite involves a group of hotel maids who reported their long hours and family responsibilities didn’t give them time to exercise. They were then told that their work, with all its bending and scrubbing, in fact involves quite a bit of exercise. So informed, they lost an average of 2 pounds over the next four weeks. Langer, who has spent several decades studying the effects of mindfulness, notes the women were paying renewed attention to activities that long ago became routine and mechanical. That, she suggests, is the key: If you’re noticing the precise condition of the carpet rather than daydreaming as you vacuum, chances are you’ll push the machine a little bit harder.
Langer defines mindfulness not in the sense of meditation and detachment popularly associated with Buddhism, but rather as being aware enough to notice subtle changes in ourselves and in our environment. The health implications of such alertness are obvious: If we notice small shifts in how we feel, we can address problems before they become acute. She argues we will also begin to realize that the distinction we make between being “sick” and “well” is often arbitrary and usually unhelpful, in that it prompts us to bounce back and forth between willful ignorance of our body’s workings and helpless dependence on a medical professional.

Langer wrote a best-selling book on mindfulness in 1990, and this latest volume may also climb the charts: A Hollywood movie focusing on the counterclockwise experiment, starring Jennifer Aniston as the research psychologist, is scheduled for release next year. No doubt the renewed interest in Langer’s research reflects a widespread fear of aging among baby boomers, many of whom will resonate to her ideas. How many have the discipline to follow through on her recommendations is another question. Living a fully engaged life in which we constantly question not only society’s assumptions about aging but also our own ingrained beliefs is a bit more involved than getting a Botox injection.

Nevertheless, policymakers and health educators need to be exposed to these concepts. (Her chapter about the consequences of language used by doctors should be taught in medical schools. Does anyone really feel better when told their cancer is “in remission”?) Langer persuasively suggests it is no coincidence that a society that worships youth and considers the elderly somewhat embarrassing is bankrupting itself with health care costs. If pop culture and the mass media equate being old with being weak, helpless and irrelevant, why wouldn’t the elderly feel feeble?

So the fountain of youth may in fact be the flood of chemicals in our brain that processes both internal and external messages about old age and dutifully passes them on to our joints, blood vessels and vital organs. Perhaps it’s time to start noticing these cerebral downloads and disregard the disempowering ones. Personally, I’m planning to pop in a tape of When Harry Met Sally into the VCR and celebrate the fall of the Berlin Wall. It turns out 1989 was quite a year.

Just Say No to Aging?

Newsweek Article

A provocative new book from a Harvard psychologist suggests that changing how we think about our age and health can have dramatic physical benefits.

Imagine that you could rewind the clock 20 years. It's 1989. Madonna is topping the pop charts, and TV sets are tuned to "Cheers" and "Murphy Brown." Widespread Internet use is just a pipe dream, and Sugar Ray Leonard and Joe Montana are on recent covers of Sports Illustrated.

But most important, you're 20 years younger. How do you feel? Well, if you're at all like the subjects in a provocative experiment by Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer, you actually feel as if your body clock has been turned back two decades. Langer did a study like this with a group of elderly men some years ago, retrofitting an isolated old New England hotel so that every visible sign said it was 20 years earlier. The men—in their late 70s and early 80s—were told not to reminisce about the past, but to actually act as if they had traveled back in time. The idea was to see if changing the men's mindset about their own age might lead to actual changes in health and fitness.

Langer's findings were stunning: After just one week, the men in the experimental group (compared with controls of the same age) had more joint flexibility, increased dexterity and less arthritis in their hands. Their mental acuity had risen measurably, and they had improved gait and posture. Outsiders who were shown the men's photographs judged them to be significantly younger than the controls. In other words, the aging process had in some measure been reversed.

I know this sounds a bit woo-wooey, but stay with me. Langer and her Harvard colleagues have been running similarly inventive experiments for decades, and the accumulated weight of the evidence is convincing. Her theory, argued in her new book, "Counterclockwise," is that we are all victims of our own stereotypes about aging and health. We mindlessly accept negative cultural cues about disease and old age, and these cues shape our self-concepts and our behavior. If we can shake loose from the negative clich├ęs that dominate our thinking about health, we can "mindfully" open ourselves to possibilities for more productive lives even into old age.

Consider another of Langer's mindfulness studies, this one using an ordinary optometrist's eye chart. That's the chart with the huge E on top, and descending lines of smaller and smaller letters that eventually become unreadable. Langer and her colleagues wondered: what if we reversed it? The regular chart creates the expectation that at some point you will be unable to read. Would turning the chart upside down reverse that expectation, so that people would expect the letters to become readable? That's exactly what they found. The subjects still couldn't read the tiniest letters, but when they were expecting the letters to get more legible, they were able to read smaller letters than they could have normally. Their expectation—their mindset—improved their actual vision.

That means that some people may be able to change prescriptions if they change the way they think about seeing. But other health consequences might be more important than that. Here's another study, this one using clothing as a trigger for aging stereotypes. Most people try to dress appropriately for their age, so clothing in effect becomes a cue for ingrained attitudes about age. But what if this cue disappeared? Langer decided to study people who routinely wear uniforms as part of their work life, and compare them with people who dress in street clothes. She found that people who wear uniforms missed fewer days owing to illness or injury, had fewer doctors' visits and hospitalizations, and had fewer chronic diseases—even though they all had the same socioeconomic status. That's because they were not constantly reminded of their own aging by their fashion choices. The health differences were even more exaggerated when Langer looked at affluent people: presumably the means to buy even more clothes provides a steady stream of new aging cues, which wealthy people internalize as unhealthy attitudes and expectations.

Langer is not advocating that we all don uniforms. Her point is that we are surrounded every day by subtle signals that aging is an undesirable period of decline. These signals make it difficult to age gracefully. Similar signals also lock all of us—regardless of age—into pigeonholes for disease. We are too quick to accept diagnostic categories like cancer and depression, and let them define us. Doing so preempts the possibility of a healthful future.

That's not to say that we won't encounter illness, bad moods or a stiff back—or that dressing like a teenager will eliminate those things. But with a little mindfulness, we can try to embrace uncertainty and understand that the way we feel today may or may not connect to the way we will feel tomorrow. Who knows, if we're open to the idea that things can improve, we just might wake up feeling 20 years younger

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Emerson Hospital, Concord, Massachusetts - Presents

Mind-Body Connection/Power of the Mind

What your thoughts affect your health & everyday life?

Understand the healing vibrations of your thoughts, words, emotions, intensions and actions and how they impact your wellness, relationships, and everyday living

You will learn:  
·         Just how powerful are your thoughts, words, emotions and intensions anyway 
·         The effect can have on your wellness, mood, relationships and life 
·         The truth behind an “aching heart”.
·         The impact your thoughts have on your motional and physical health
·         How does anger, depression and holding onto grudges affect you and your environment
·         Proof of how your thoughts give off vibrations that affect you and others. 
·         The power of the body's electromagnetic field

Location:  Emerson Hospital, Concord, MA 
 Registration: (978) 287-3777

Cost:  $35

Saturday, April  9  ·  9:30 a.m. – noon

Sharing—A Teachable Moment for Toddlers

Since the day her brother arrived home from the hospital in her parents’ arms, sharing has been a very difficult concept for my now five-year-old granddaughter to grasp. Sophia has struggled when he receives attention from adults and become hysterical if he touches anything that belongs to her. And when it happens—while visiting friends, at family events, in the waiting room or at the grocery store—her shrill screams wrack the nerves of anyone in earshot, not to mention the extreme anxiety it causes her embarrassed mother and father.
Anyone who knows a toddler knows that fun time can very quickly dissolve in an explosion of tears and temper tantrums when sharing is required. My son and daughter-in-law, like many other wonderful parents, may have missed an opportunity to teach the concept of sharing when they resorted to managing or even separating the children during these situations.   

One day while I was babysitting the grandkids, a major tantrum erupted after Sophia’s brother started playing with her doll carriage. I knew there had to be a better way through this, so instead of getting upset with my granddaughter for her seemingly outrageous behavior, I simply felt a great deal of compassion for how emotional and distraught she was. I wrapped my arms around her and asked her how she was feeling at that moment.

She stopped crying and looked a little puzzled, trying to figure out what I meant and how she was feeling.

“I bet you don’t feel good right now, do you?” I asked. She shook her head, no. Then I suggested she think about something nice, such as a time when she did something nice for someone or when she shared a toy with a friend. A big smile spread over her face. 

I explained that she actually has a choice about how she wants to feel. She could continue to feel bad when she makes a decision not to share or she could feel good when she shares. It was her choice. She became so excited with this new possibility she asked me to tell her mother and father about it when they came home. And she gave her little brother the carriage.

Now, as you might guess, this was not the last of these episodes. Sophia occasionally forgets that she has a choice, though she is always very willing to be reminded. Like anyone learning a new behavior, sometimes all it takes to change is a little practice and a gentle nudge from someone who is invested in helping us. 

Even at the tender age of five, Sophia knew the difference between feelings she liked and those she did not. Now when she is having a “moment,” I just ask her how she wants to feel and remind her that she has a choice. She clearly enjoys being in charge of this part of her life. And while her three-year-old brother does not understand the concept, he responds positively to his sister’s newfound willingness to share. He no longer has to struggle with her and usually just hands back whatever object is in dispute.

As adults, we have the same capability to make changes in our own behaviors.  We can choose to feel jealousy and anger, or we can choose kindness.  By teaching and role modeling positive behaviors to our children we can instill skills that will help them for a life time.

Can you imagine how much more peace there will be in their futures—and in the world?

“Ellen Langer and the Power of Possibility” - Mindfulness for Health

Tenth Anniversary Lecture April 30:
Ellen Langer and the Power of Possibility

“Take a brilliant, creative social scientist, without any respect for conventional wisdom and you get Ellen Langer. She is a fantastic storyteller, and Counterclockwise is a fascinating story about the unexpected ways in which our minds and bodies are connected.” Dan Ariely, Ph.D.

Ellen’s groundbreaking studies, have led to a remarkable set of findings on the practical applications of mindfulness for health: When people are taught to be mindful in a fashion very different from meditation:

·         They become more creative, healthier, and happier
·         They show improvements in memory, attention, and productivity
·         A decrease in judgment of self and others
·         A decrease in burnout
Most dramatically, the research has found an increase in longevity, an improvement in vision, and a decrease in weight, all as a result of people changing their minds.

As she writes in Counterclockwise, “Mindful health is not about how we should eat right, exercise, or follow medical recommendations, nor is it about abandoning these things. It is not about New Age medicine nor traditional understandings of illness. It is about the need to free ourselves from constricting mindsets and the limits they place on our health and well- being, and to appreciate the importance of becoming the guardians of our own health. Learning how to change requires understanding how we go astray.”

Dr. Ellen Langer is a professor in the Psychology Department at Harvard University. Her books written for general and academic readers include Mindfulness, The Power of Mindful Learning; On Becoming an Artist; and Counterclockwise: Mindful Health and the Power of Possibility.

Please join us as we welcome Dr. Langer on Saturday, April 30 at the College of the Holy Cross in Worcester.

A private VIP reception with Dr. Langer will take place from 6- 7 :15 pm, followed by a general lecture and Q & A from 7:30-9 pm. Tickets for the reception with special lecture seating are $100 and tickets for the lecture only are $35. Call 978-456-3532 ext 1# to reserve space.   If you are a Healing Garden member make sure to ask for the member discount.

For more information about Dr. Langer’s work please go to

Thursday, March 31, 2011

Your good will can heal the world.

The power to change the world is in you. It’s in your ability to choose and your courage to follow through on your choices. All you need to do is choose to be kind, and you might just inspire others to do the same. A wave of kindness can be magical!